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Why does breastfeeding trigger me?

Understanding Breastfeeding Triggers: A Complex Emotional Landscape
Breastfeeding is often celebrated as a natural and nurturing act, yet for some individuals, it can evoke unexpected and intense emotional responses. The phenomenon of breastfeeding aversion and agitation (BAA) is a lesser-known but significant aspect of this experience. It can manifest as feelings of discomfort, irritability, or even anger during breastfeeding sessions, particularly among mothers who are tandem feeding or breastfeeding while pregnant.
The Emotional and Physical Dynamics
The emotional landscape surrounding breastfeeding is complex. For many mothers, the act of breastfeeding is intertwined with a myriad of feelings, including joy, bonding, and fulfillment. However, it can also bring about psychological distress. Factors such as fatigue, hormonal changes, and the physical discomfort associated with breastfeeding can contribute to negative emotions. Research indicates that emotional distress can inhibit the let-down reflex, which is crucial for effective breastfeeding, further complicating the experience.
Mothers experiencing BAA often report that their feelings can fluctuate dramatically. What begins as a loving interaction can quickly turn into a source of agitation. This shift can be particularly pronounced in mothers who are managing multiple children or facing additional stressors in their lives. The emotional toll of breastfeeding can lead to a sense of being overwhelmed, which may trigger feelings of resentment or frustration.
Societal and Personal Expectations
Societal pressures surrounding breastfeeding can also exacerbate these feelings. Many mothers feel an obligation to breastfeed due to public health recommendations and societal norms that promote breastfeeding as the ideal form of infant nutrition. This pressure can create a conflict between personal feelings and societal expectations, leading to guilt or shame when negative emotions arise during breastfeeding.
Moreover, the lack of open dialogue about the challenges of breastfeeding can leave mothers feeling isolated. Many may not realize that their experiences are shared by others, which can intensify feelings of inadequacy or frustration. The stigma surrounding negative feelings about breastfeeding can prevent mothers from seeking support or discussing their experiences openly.
Conclusion: Navigating the Emotional Terrain
Understanding why breastfeeding triggers negative emotions is crucial for both mothers and those around them. It highlights the need for a supportive environment where mothers can express their feelings without judgment. Recognizing that breastfeeding can be both a beautiful and challenging experience allows for a more nuanced conversation about maternal health and well-being.
Ultimately, addressing the emotional complexities of breastfeeding is essential for fostering a supportive community that acknowledges the diverse experiences of mothers. By doing so, we can help ensure that all mothers feel empowered to navigate their breastfeeding journeys, regardless of the emotions they may encounter along the way.

Is it normal to get frustrated with breastfeeding?

It’s normal to feel frustrated if you’re having difficulty breastfeeding.

Why is breastfeeding so hard on mental health?

Common breastfeeding problems
Women often struggle with the pressure to feed very regularly, as well as the lack of sleep due to nighttime feeding. As a result, lots of new mothers find themselves feeling overwhelmed, exhausted and struggling with their mental health.

Why does breastfeeding annoy me?

However, it can cause intense unhappiness (dysphoria) and other unpleasant emotions. It can also happen if your breasts accidentally have a let down at any other time, which can be common during lactation. As the name suggests, this condition is a reflex and something you can’t control.

Why does breastfeeding put me in a bad mood?

A little understood phenomenon is Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex (D-MER). Mothers suffering from this physiological condition feel intense sadness and low mood from just before a breastfeed and for a couple of minutes of it starting, some experiencing it again with subsequent let downs through the feeding session.

What is dysregulated breastfeeding?

Because a vigorous sucking pattern without stopping is a new descriptor for a dysregulated breastfeeding pattern, this study has identified a behavior that—if future research is supportive—care providers and lactation specialists should assess.

Why does breastfeeding make you so emotional?

Oxytocin is a neurochemical released during breastfeeding and skin-to-skin contact, playing a pivotal role in fostering a deep emotional connection between the mother and her baby.

Why does nursing give me so much anxiety?

One common reason for nurse anxiety is the ever-changing standards of patient care. The nursing profession is constantly changing. What was best practice yesterday may be poor practice tomorrow. As a traveling nurse, I have noticed that one facility’s basic standard of care may be foreign to another.

Why is breastfeeding so triggering?

A small percentage of women respond to breastfeeding hormones with a sudden onset of feeling sad, angry, homesick, or anxious. Often identified at D-MER (Dysphoric Milk Ejection Reflex), this condition is thought to be caused by the rise in prolactin levels, which briefly competes with and reduces dopamine levels.

Is it normal to not enjoy breastfeeding?

Depression or other negative emotions upon milk let-down (D-MER) Whilst not enjoying breastfeeding all the time, or developing nursing aversion is very common, a small number of women experience far stronger negative emotions when breastfeeding.

Why does breastfeeding trigger my anxiety?

It’s a physiological (read: not mental) response to your body releasing milk, and can bring on feelings of intense sadness, despair, anxiety and more as you’re starting to nurse your baby.

Natasha Lunn

Tash is an IBCLC and Business Coach helping fellow IBCLCs create fun, profitable businesses that are more than just an expensive hobby. Before becoming an IBCLC and starting her private practice - The Boobala, Tash graduated as an Osteopath in 2008 and has been in Private Practice in South West Sydney. She was also a volunteer Breastfeeding Counsellor and Community Educator with the Australian Breastfeeding Association for 6 years. Through her business, Your Lactation Biz, Tash coaches and creates products to help new and seasoned IBCLCs build businesses that suit their personality and lifestyle.

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