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How can I get my baby to self soothe without breastfeeding?

Understanding Self-Soothing in Babies
Teaching your baby to self-soothe is an essential skill that can lead to better sleep patterns and a more independent child. Self-soothing refers to a baby’s ability to calm themselves without relying on external aids, such as breastfeeding or being held. This process not only helps them fall asleep on their own but also enables them to return to sleep independently if they wake during the night.
Establishing a Routine
One of the most effective ways to encourage self-soothing is to establish a consistent bedtime routine. This routine should be calming and predictable, signaling to your baby that it’s time to wind down. Activities such as a warm bath, gentle rocking, or reading a story can help prepare your baby for sleep. Importantly, try to schedule feeding earlier in the routine. If your baby is accustomed to falling asleep while breastfeeding, consider stopping the feeding before they are fully asleep, allowing them to learn to drift off without that reliance.
Techniques for Self-Soothing
1. Gradual Withdrawal: Initially, you may need to stay close to your baby as they learn to self-soothe. This can involve standing next to the crib and offering verbal reassurance or gentle back rubs. Over time, gradually reduce your presence, allowing them to learn to settle on their own.
2. Gentle Touch: Instead of picking your baby up when they cry, try soothing them with gentle touches. Rubbing their back, repositioning them, or even replacing a pacifier can provide comfort without fully removing them from their sleep space.
3. Creating a Soothing Environment: Ensure that your baby’s sleep environment is conducive to relaxation. This includes dim lighting, a comfortable temperature, and minimal noise. A consistent sleep space helps babies associate that area with sleep, making it easier for them to self-soothe.
4. Encouraging Exploration: Allow your baby some time to explore their surroundings during awake periods. This exploration can help them feel more secure and confident, which can translate into better self-soothing abilities when it’s time for sleep.
The Importance of Patience
It’s crucial to remember that self-soothing is a skill that takes time to develop. Babies may initially resist these changes, and some crying is a natural part of the learning process. However, this does not mean you should ignore their needs. Instead, focus on providing comfort in a way that encourages independence. The goal is to help your baby learn calming strategies that will serve them throughout their lives.
Conclusion
In summary, teaching your baby to self-soothe without breastfeeding involves establishing a calming bedtime routine, using gentle techniques to provide comfort, and creating a soothing sleep environment. With patience and consistency, your baby can learn to fall asleep independently, leading to more restful nights for both of you.

Will my baby naturally stop nursing to sleep?

Breastfeeding your baby to sleep helps baby feel calm, safe and secure. Over time, babies stop falling asleep at the breast so easily, and eventually all babies or children stop needing the breast to fall asleep. Sleep is not a taught development, and all children get there in their own time.

How do I teach my breastfed baby to self soothe?

Top 10 Tips for Teaching your Baby to Self Soothe:

  1. Respond to your baby’s needs. All behavior is a communication, and in young humans, most communication expresses a need.
  2. Hold your Baby.
  3. Breastfeed as much and as long as possible.
  4. Sleep with your baby.
  5. Wear your baby.

How to get baby to stop using breast as pacifier?

Usually, the baby does it on his own, but you may help him by doing some compressions at the breast when he stops sucking for a while, or he’s doing frequent non-nutritive sucking.

How do I break my baby from nursing to sleep?

Add in a new temporary sleep prop to help them disassociate feeding and sleep. You can start patting your baby’s back or singing a song while feeding and slowly get them used to that while being put down in the crib. Once they are used to the new sleep prop you can slowly work toward weaning them off of that as well.

Do babies grow out of comfort nursing?

Usually, babies will grow out of comfort nursing as they reach the toddler stage.

How to tell if baby is waking from hunger or habit?

It all depends on your specific baby. To determine if your baby is waking due to hunger, consider the duration of their longest sleep stretch. If they’ve slept for 5+ hours but now wake every 2 hours, it’s likely not hunger-related, and other soothing methods can be employed.

How do I stop my baby from breastfeeding for comfort?

The following tips may help.

  1. Say “no,” and offer distractions. Try reading a book while holding your baby on your lap.
  2. Make your breasts less available for nursing. Stop wearing nursing clothing such as nursing bras and tops with nursing slits.
  3. Let someone else take care of your baby for a few days.

How to break the feeding to sleep habit?

Change the routine.
Stopping the pre-nap or pre-bedtime feed doesn’t mean getting rid of it altogether. Offer them a feed earlier than normal, then give them time to play or have a bath in between the feed and sleep. Top tip: Your baby’s sleep pattern cannot be taught; it will develop in its own time, so be patient.

How to soothe a baby to sleep without nursing?

The routine could consist of:

  1. having a bath.
  2. changing into night clothes and a fresh nappy.
  3. putting them to bed.
  4. reading a bedtime story (see more in Baby and toddler play ideas)
  5. dimming the lights in the room to create a calm atmosphere.
  6. giving a goodnight kiss and cuddle.

How to stop baby from using breast as soother?

Before your baby completely falls asleep while on your breast, simply slide your finger in his mouth, releasing his grip on your nipple, and then gently close his mouth. This discourages your baby from wanting to suck.

Natasha Lunn

Tash is an IBCLC and Business Coach helping fellow IBCLCs create fun, profitable businesses that are more than just an expensive hobby. Before becoming an IBCLC and starting her private practice - The Boobala, Tash graduated as an Osteopath in 2008 and has been in Private Practice in South West Sydney. She was also a volunteer Breastfeeding Counsellor and Community Educator with the Australian Breastfeeding Association for 6 years. Through her business, Your Lactation Biz, Tash coaches and creates products to help new and seasoned IBCLCs build businesses that suit their personality and lifestyle.

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